When I heard about a horrible thing that happened to a friend of mine, I posted on her Facebook wall that I was so sorry that happened to her. But I wanted to do more than that. I wanted to actually help her. So after 2 days of respectfully staying away, I sent her a private message and insisted that she meet me for some silliness. That is the best way to get over something traumatic happening to you. Spending time not talking about it anymore and trusting a good friend to bring some silliness back into your life.